Musician Lady Zamar has responded to a video made by ex boyfriend Sjava over rape allegations against him.
Lady Zamar said he doesn’t like talking on social media but she has been forced to because Sjava lied about her.
I don’t like going on social media talking about private life or things that happen to me. I try t keep out of social media streets
Lady Zamar narrated how Sjava raped her but she took long to realise she had been raped. She says she used to use words such as ‘he forced himself on me’ or ‘e sexually assaulted me’ as she had no courage to use the word ‘rape’.
Basically what happened was i was asked out by Jabulani. Sometimes i would see him once a month. I always ask myself and blame myself if i didn’t go to his room it wouldn’t have happened. I believed Sjava every time he told me that he is sorry he treats me badly. There are things that got me scared of him like men will not date women who have been abused. He would be telling people who are around that you shouldn’t date women who are abused or raped. There are lot of things about this man that you will literally be terrified because you don’t know what is next. I told him that he had abused me and he responded that i was lucky because i did not know what abuse is.
He always said he forgets things and i would remind him as he pretended to forget things. This is what is was. in July 2018 i told him i cannot living in fear this and i can’t be with someone who treats me like rubbish. At that point I couldn’t accept that i was raped. I couldn’t understand why i was with this person.
There was a recording that was released and some recording went around. It was taken in August 2018. He has recruited people i worked with and they accuse me to be a liar on social media. I don’t have a problem with bitterness.
By 2019 January I still had not accepted that I was raped. I had not come to terms with that. It was only in April last year that i told someone. I could not say the word rape but always said he forced himself on me or he sexually assaulted me.
He is the man who told me that my feelings don’t matter. He called me and took me to some producer’s house. When he was dropping me he said you are lucky i’m not that man who doesn’t beat up women. He told me sometimes he would just drive by my house. He always stalking me and knew about my moves. He has terrorized me. He has abused and lied about me.
Lady Zamar said she only got the courage to report Sjava for rape after getting advice from her boyfriend at the time to enable her to heal and move from the past.
I got to a point i said i cannot be quiet anymore. The case is pending and the justice system might not be perfect but justice can be done to others. My body is mine and no one has a right to it. It’s hard for me to have other relationship. I had to said it because my boyfriend told me to get it out so i could heal. I’m not saying this to ruin anyone. I could not fight him him because he is huge and i’m short. I spoke to the press about this and the dockets have leaked. I will not have someone lie about me.
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